tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-388131677033775819.post7867597460011385391..comments2020-09-22T07:12:40.861-07:00Comments on Sunday at Noon Blog: Sugar and Spice and All Things TOO Nice?Sunday at Noon Bloghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11763087319906253692noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-388131677033775819.post-83762314474012275662009-05-10T10:25:00.000-07:002009-05-10T10:25:00.000-07:00You raise an interesting point re: disappearing vs...You raise an interesting point re: disappearing vs. diplomatically telling someone you're not interested - another reader also touched upon that issue in a previous comment and I intend to address it very soon in a future blog...<br /><br />I am so glad my words stayed in your mind and kept you from calling again. Women have a way of handling certain things that can be different than the way men would, and there are many reasons for this difference in behavior/thinking (e.g., the way girls are socialized which is hard for men to understand as they were not socialized in the same way). Understanding what's actually going on is really the key. As I said in my latest blog, knowledge is power. <br /><br />Thanks for the comment - keep them coming!Sunday at Noon Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11763087319906253692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-388131677033775819.post-83588014696511886152009-05-10T08:20:00.000-07:002009-05-10T08:20:00.000-07:00Marni, as a man I have never been one to simply "d...Marni, as a man I have never been one to simply "disappear." Either in person or on the phone (and at times, by email) I have always conveyed directly to women that I wished to move on (and I did always try to be diplomatic).<br /><br />So from my perspective it's hard and even angering when women take this route.<br /><br />But I am beginning to understand that this is just the way many women do things. They won't do things the way I do them, even if I wish they did.<br /><br />I just went on a 2nd date, and it went well - or so I thought. I called her 2 days later and left a voicemail, asking her to call me back whenever she could. She never did.<br /><br />I will admit I was tempted to contact her again, but I was then reminded of your words ("Absolutely not. You’ve called her, she knows your number and she didn’t call, text or email back – she’s not interested.") and understood it'd be futile for me to call again - and I'm already moving on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-388131677033775819.post-6335079695559709592009-04-24T14:01:00.000-07:002009-04-24T14:01:00.000-07:00I read the blog again and I see what you're saying...I read the blog again and I see what you're saying Marni, but whether its an initial date or an initial interest that has dwindled/changed or is teasing us, aren't we all craving honesty. And even if you are being blown off or ignored, sometimes there is room for a second chance...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-388131677033775819.post-81350273610739631322009-04-23T21:18:00.000-07:002009-04-23T21:18:00.000-07:00Hi Jeremy, thanks for the comment! You raise grea...Hi Jeremy, thanks for the comment! You raise great questions. There is a difference being made in this particular blog, though, between a woman who was intially interested in the guy (and for whatever reason after a date(s has determined that it is not going to work for her) and a woman who has not been interested from the get go (and wants the guy to take the hint). But there will definitely be a blog (or several) on the issues you raise above (how helpful feeback from a date can be, why chemistry is present sometimes and elusive other times, etc.) Keep the comments coming!Sunday at Noon Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11763087319906253692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-388131677033775819.post-29166980806258424342009-04-23T17:22:00.000-07:002009-04-23T17:22:00.000-07:00jeremy says:
Nice post Marni! In my dating experie...jeremy says:<br />Nice post Marni! In my dating experiences, the chemistry factor can sometimes be elusive. Did she have a good time? Why didn't she respond to a call or text; maybe she got side tracked or doesn't like to text...and dare I say, sometimes it is instructional to actually know WHY the girl is just not into you...I have extracted reasons from woman such as; I was too shy, too short, I look like the stepfather, was too nice, lived too far away, <br />etc etc...it can be a learning experience to actually reveal the reasons for failed chemistry sometimes, instead of just having hurt feelings toward hearing the truth...maybe you can improve yourself in knowing more...I think that has been the source of the mystery and confusion of dating for me...the ultimate WHY is there chemistry and WHY is there not???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-388131677033775819.post-56684129790476940962009-04-23T16:25:00.000-07:002009-04-23T16:25:00.000-07:00Ok, that last comment gave me a good laugh - very...Ok, that last comment gave me a good laugh - very funny re: asking the friend out.<br /><br />But your point is right on. Any guy who is observant should know when a girl is playing a little hard to get (she makes it clear by giving you just enough to keep you interested...) and when she is really not the least bit interested. Yes, body language often reveals a lot.Sunday at Noon Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11763087319906253692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-388131677033775819.post-12495959672460583702009-04-23T16:19:00.000-07:002009-04-23T16:19:00.000-07:00If a girl doesn't call you BECAUSE she is interest...If a girl doesn't call you BECAUSE she is interested - you need to move on, man...life's waaaaaaay to short and there are a million others out there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-388131677033775819.post-27813834151925392932009-04-23T16:17:00.000-07:002009-04-23T16:17:00.000-07:00In a perfect world everyone would be friendly and ...In a perfect world everyone would be friendly and upfront, but that's not going to happen. Call once. Only. You also can best her chops when you see her and say, "Hey - great to see you! Called you last week, but never heard from you." Her body language now will say all. If she is into you, she will say, yes - let's hang out. Otherwise, ask her best friend out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-388131677033775819.post-29434791431503374612009-04-23T16:02:00.000-07:002009-04-23T16:02:00.000-07:00OK, so this blog is pretty interesting. Good pers...OK, so this blog is pretty interesting. Good perspective on how women think.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00520333562198335025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-388131677033775819.post-62470804458114636072009-04-23T14:49:00.000-07:002009-04-23T14:49:00.000-07:00I disagree. Sometimes, too often, women play hard ...I disagree. Sometimes, too often, women play hard to get. They don't call you back on purpose not because they are NOT interested but precisely because they ARE interested. In this city, the games people play are legendary. But, to your bigger point, I would rather be told straight up- I don't want to go out with you again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-388131677033775819.post-6132826962353132922009-04-23T14:13:00.000-07:002009-04-23T14:13:00.000-07:00We don't want the direct rejection. Any interactio...We don't want the direct rejection. Any interaction after that will be very cool and quasi-hostile after such a rejection. <br /><br />What we DO want is a nice subtle rejection that doesnt confuse us. Sadly, we are easily confused, and if you don't call us back for a month straight but then smile when you next see us we take it as a mixed signal.ericnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-388131677033775819.post-37594340835028760142009-04-23T13:30:00.000-07:002009-04-23T13:30:00.000-07:00I would much rather have someone tell me they aren...I would much rather have someone tell me they aren't interested!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com